On Learning to Surrender

The lesson I am continuing to learn is surrender. With each layer of surrendering more and more, I find greater freedom and greater peace. This past week I was trying to wake up at 5 am so I could get to the office earlier, so I could leave earlier to have more time to focus on all the things that inspire me and bring me joy – my hobbies, my coaching business and connecting with my loved ones. All week as I “worked hard” to make this happen, I found that the harder I worked, the more difficult it became. The more I policed and admonished myself, the more my stress levels rose around bedtime – leading to not so great sleep which led to not waking up at 5 am like I wanted. Hello self-sabotage.

I stressed myself out over achieving the goal so much that by mid-week I realized that I was in a battle, fighting with no one other than myself. Fighting the thoughts that said “How hard could it be Tyche? You’re a morning person. Remember?” “Really? 5:35? You are sooo failing here?” It’s no surprise that my body got in on the action and very soon, I found myself battling one of those icky viruses going around at this time of year. All of this continued until I reached my breaking point on Thursday night and said “Screw it! Too bad! I am going to sleep now and I will wake up whenever I wake up! My body needs rest.” (Take that saboteurs!) I was forced into surrender mode. Can you guess what happened?

Yep, you guessed right! On Friday morning I woke up at 4:54. Before my alarm. Well rested and refreshed. I got to the office as early as I wanted and left as early as I wanted. I reached my goal, but only after I was able to let go of such strong attachment to it.

So often, life is like that; we fight with ourselves and wage war against some unseen enemy when we are trying to achieve something. We expect that it will be difficult and that is exactly what we create.

But what if it wasn’t always so difficult? What if we could just go with the flow? What if we could set intentions and just trust that our desires will come to pass? What if we named and acknowledged those voices that tell us that we’ll never reach our goal, or that it’s too hard, (or whatever crack story the saboteur comes up with) but then blow right past them and take action anyway? What if life didn’t have to force us to surrender? What if we were in the regular habit of letting go, freely? Can you imagine how much more goodness would flow into our lives?

I know I’m not alone on this journey of greater surrender, so here is an invitation to explore how this might apply to you. I invite you to notice in your life where you are holding on when what is needed is letting go. Really think about where you might be fighting, when all you need to do is relax and go with the flow. Take stock of where you need to surrender and make a decision to do just that. Then watch. Watch how easy it gets. Watch everything you want come to you.  It was always yours to begin with.

Love,
Tyche